The BDSM Lifestyle

What is the BDSM Lifestyle?

I always talk about that I am living the BDSM lifestyle. The first question raises: What is the BDSM Lifestyle?

Living the BDSM Lifestyle means you see yourself as a Master or as a slave. It is not a “role” you play. It is who you are. It is not a “session” where you become a Master or a slave at the start and at the end of it you are back to an equal status quo. For me that is called having a “BDSM-session”. Nobody starts with the lifestyle, perhaps you have thoughts about it but first you will start small and will do your first experiences in BDSM-sessions. If you are a natural Master or slave you will find out that you see yourself not only in the “session” as Master or slave. You are a Master or slave.

Living the lifestyle means that the slave you own has always rules and structures in places. Furthermore a natural slave shows respect towards Superiors. That does not mean a slave submits to all Masters or have to follow them blindly. Showing respect and submitting are two different things. Calling a Master “Sir” only means that a slave accepts the natural hierarchy between the two of them.

Sessions vs. Lifestyle?

I quickly figured out that I disliked it when slaves stopped being slaves only because the session had stopped. When a slave decided to kneel before me and therefore submits I see him permanently as a slave. It is like that the person became marked in my mind as slave. Of course the slave receives the respect he deserves but he is never again “equal” towards me.

So where to draw the line between sessions and lifestyle? You can have session which lasts for days. Guest Masters or slaves that visit for some days perhaps see the visit more as a session without a break then a lifestyle…

In my personal definition I would draw the line on how a person sees it. Therefore his mindset: If someone sees him at all time submissive towards a Master or vica versa. Then he is a natural Master or slave and therefore has the lifestyle in him. If you live the lifestyle you have to be natural otherwise you are only playing a role and this can not make you happy on a long term.

 

The lifestyle under Master D.

I have clear rules and structures for slaves who submit and serve me. Of course it always depends on the experiences and the personality of the slave and therefore small changes can occur. Slaves that are serving me and accept me have clear and certain rules like

These rules and structures occur at all time and should show the slave his place in the hierarchy.